Care.com首席执行官：放弃完美

    2006年，希拉•马塞洛一边努力照顾两个年幼的孩子，一边要帮助父亲从心脏病中恢复过来。她意识到自己并不孤单，一定还有很多人像她一样需要帮助，于是她成立了Care.com。这个网站帮助家长、父母已年老的子女和宠物主人安排合适的护理人员，从而大幅减轻他们的压力。马塞洛被评为2009年《财富》最具影响力女性企业家（Most Powerful Women Entrepreneur）。她的公司也非常成功，过去两年一直在为这项评选活动提供赞助。

    《财富》最具影响力商界女性榜单始于1998年，次年开始召开年度峰会，如今已成为商界、政界、慈善界、教育和艺术界女性的一次盛会。每周最具影响力商界女性个人问答专栏将关注领导力、期望等问题，当然也会关注工作与生活的平衡问题。

    1. 你获得过的最好建议是什么？

    每天结束工作的时候，想三件当天做得很好或做得对的事情，把它们写下来。你会惊奇地发现，关注积极的事情会改变你看待事物的角度。

    2. 你最近读过的一本书是什么？

    《心的导引:宁静安住的禅修之道》（Turning the Mind Into an Ally）是一本很了不起的书，我每年都会重新捧起来读一遍。虽然我不是佛教徒，但我发现萨姜•米庞仁波切这本书中的许多见解都是了不起的生活技能。我相信，这本书是有关革新，而非革命的。作为一名母亲和公司CEO，我一直都认为，阅读米庞仁波切的作品就是经历一次重要且刺激的旅行，它引导我们通过自我意识来管理压力。我在菲律宾长大，这里有着发展中国家常见的场景。我们每天都在努力寻求发展，持续成长与学习的理念也一直伴随着我。

    3. 当前就业市场不景气。你对正在找工作的年轻人有什么建议？

    放弃之前对于“成功”的看法。这是我经常提到的一条建议，在就业市场不景气的情况下，这条建议显得更加真切可靠。根据自己的实际情况和自己真正想要的东西去设定目标，制定计划，不要受到别人的影响。

    4. 你错过的最佳机会是什么？

    我们年轻的时候曾希望有一个女儿。这几年，我们一直在考虑收养一个孩子，因为我们都爱孩子。如果收养不成功，我希望能抱上孙子。

    In 2006, Sheila Marcelo struggled to take care of two young children while she helped her father recover from a heart attack. Realizing she wasn't alone, she founded Care.com. The website helps connect parents, kids with elderly moms and dads, and pet owners with the appropriate care givers, making their lives drastically less stressful. Marcelo was one of Fortune's Most Powerful Women Entrepreneur winners in 2009 -- and her company's become so successful that it has sponsored the contest for the past two years.

    Fortune's Most Powerful Women started as a list in 1998, kicked off its annual Summit the following year, and has since become a community of the preeminent women in business, government, philanthropy, education, and the arts. This weekly Q&A features one MPW's personal take on leadership, aspirations, and (of course) balance.

    1. What is the best advice you ever received?

    At the end of the day, think about three things that went really well or went right that day and write them down. It's amazing how focusing on the positive can change your perspective.

    2. What was the last book you read?

    Turning the Mind Into an Ally is a great book that I reread every year. Although not a Buddhist myself, I find that Sakyong Mipham offers insights that are an amazing life skill. I believe it is about evolutions, not revolutions, and as both a mom and CEO, I've found Sakyong's work is an influential, provocative journey toward managing stress through self-awareness. As a young woman growing up in the Philippines surrounded by the common scenes of a developing country, growth was something we strove for on a daily basis, and the concept of continued growth and learning has stayed with me.

    3. What would you say to a group of young people looking to enter the tough job market?

    I offer this advice all the time, but it's especially true in a tough job market: Let go of your perception of "success." Set goals and create plans that work for you and what you want from your life, not what someone else dictates.

    4. What was your biggest missed opportunity?

    Wishing we had a daughter when we were younger. We hope to consider adoption in several years since we love children. If not, I'm looking forward to being a grandmother.