这些经验很有用很难学，但二十几岁时一定要知道

William Beteet 在Quora上的回答

1.她/他不爱你的话没关系。曾经有个叫狄安娜的姑娘，我以为会跟她过一辈子。为了她我戒了烟，为她写剧本，练出一身肌肉。我向她求爱数次都被拒绝，但是无所谓。我并没有失败，因为爱情不是努力就能获得的。

2.所谓的满足只是谎言。这世上没有什么事做成了之后，你会彻底满足从此无欲无求。要把满足当成营养，每天注意充实自我才能感受生命的活力。

3.要实现梦想就要忍受屈辱。公开讲话时丢人现眼，把小说寄出去后被改得面目全非，打出上千个推销电话。不要活在别人的想法里，重点在自己的主要目标，要记住向上攀登时没人能保持光鲜形象。

4.爱上痛苦。我在哥本哈根时告诉一个意大利人说，快乐的秘诀就是爱上痛苦。如果能做到，变强大的艰辛旅途就不再是折磨，你会享受整个过程。

5.要懂得坚守。为了达到目标，就要接受很多当前不需要的东西。我认真对待食物，因为对维持身体健康很重要。我可以接受不能像以前一样经常出门玩，因为练习深蹲起立更重要。实施前就想清楚你愿意付出的代价，等到真正妥协时就不会很纠结。

6.刺激是很肤浅的感觉。我曾在全球各地旅行，路上遇到过形形色色的人们。为了找刺激旅行几个月的人听起来都差不多。如果最终目标就是寻求刺激，根本没必要，很快就会发现没什么新鲜感。

7.孤独来自内心。我一个人在健身房训练不会感觉孤单，但是去参加派对当壁花会觉得孤独。为什么？因为是否孤独只看当下你是否参与其中。所以如果你感觉孤独，可以试着关上电脑做点开心的事，你会重新开始享受生活。

8.有时牺牲会赋予事物意义。我曾连续325天练习深蹲起立，为之错过了家庭聚会，跟朋友出门，约会，还有一次去巴西、阿根廷和秘鲁的旅行，但正因为错过了那么多，我在深蹲练习上获得的成功意义更加重大。所以不要把练习深蹲当沉没成本，要看成让你做的事情更有意义的机会。 （财富中文网）

译者：冯丰

审校：夏林

Answer by William Beteet on Quora.

1. She/He Doesn’t Love You and That’s OK – There was a girl named Tianna, and I thought I was destined to be with her. I quit smoking for her, wrote screenplays for her, put on a ton of muscle for her — I professed my love to her a couple times and was rejected — and that’s OK. I didn’t fail because love isn’t something to achieve.

2. Fulfillment Is a Lie – You will never achieve a success so great that you will no longer feel the need to do something to feel whole. You must treat fulfillment like nutrition, and do something enriching everyday in order to feel alive.

3. You Need to Experience Shame to Achieve Your Dreams – Bomb at an open mic, send your novel to someone who’s going to paint it red, make a thousand cold calls. Don’t live in the minds of other, focus on your main goals, and remember no one looks sexy on their climb to the top.

4. Fall In love With Pain – While I was in Copenhagen I told an Italian man the secret to being happy in life was to fall in love with pain. Then you will not only be able to withstand the arduous journey to becoming the strongest version of yourself, but you’ll enjoy yourself along the way.

5. You Must Settle – In order to have what you want, you have to settle for a lot of things you might not want at that moment. I eat to settle on foods because having a great body is more important, I settle with not going out on as many as I used to, because standup is more important. Plan out what you’re willing to settle on in advance, that way you don’t feel conflicted about having to make sacrifices.

6. Excitement Is Shallow – I’ve traveled all over the world and met people from all walks of life along the way. The people who were just traveling for excitement for several months, all sounded the same. Chasing excitement as an end is redundant. Soon there are no more novel truths to discover.

7. Loneliness Is About You – I’m not lonely when I’m at the gym even though I’m training by myself, but I am lonely when I go to parties and I’m being a wall flower. Why? Because loneliness is about your engagement in the that moment. So if you’re feeling lonely, close your computer and go for a run, it will get you back into the moment.

8. Sacrifice Makes Things Mean Sometimes – I have performed stand up for 325 consecutive days, I’ve missed family gatherings, nights out with friends, dates, a trip to Brazil Argentina and Peru, but missing out on all of these things made my successes in standup mean so much more to me. So don’t look at standup as a sunk cost, but an opportunity to make the thing you are working on worth more to you.