桑德伯格新作：告别挚爱后重新解读“向前一步”

《选项B》（Option B）由桑德伯格与沃顿商学院教授亚当•格兰特合著。书中回忆了桑德伯格丈夫戴夫•高德伯格去世后的伤痛，也研究探索了人们怎样克服逆境。

《选项B》并非《向前一步》的续篇，不过，桑德伯格的确在新书中提到了前作，承认之前的书有局限，也表示自己运气比较好。“写《向前一步》之后，有人评价，我没有花多少笔墨描写女性失去伴侣后面临的困难。他们说得对。”她这样写道。

在《选项B》中，桑德伯格重新解释了前作中提出的口号。她回忆了一段小插曲：主持丈夫葬礼的犹太教教士提醒她：“向逆境前行。”意思是，做好准备，生活中的不幸造成的伤痛可能会持续一段时间。桑德伯格在新书中写道：“他说的前行跟我说的前行意思不一样，不过对当时的我来说也是好建议。”

这一次，桑德伯格和格兰特显然为了表现包容性颇费周章：书中许多故事提到少数族裔怎样克服逆境。故事固然发人深省，但读者往往会感觉像是作者生加的内容。类似的情况还有，通篇夹杂的研究虽然有趣，但证明桑德伯格和格兰特的观点方面力度远不如桑德伯格描述自己如何战胜悲痛。

书中最有力之处是文字娓娓道来，仿佛直接阅读桑德伯格的日记。部分章节中，我们能看到，这位大权在握自信非凡的顶尖精英如何努力摆脱不安。桑德伯格写道：

“我讨厌求助，讨厌需要帮助，没完没了地担心我变成大家沉重的包袱，但又总是需要别人的支持。我心神不安饱受折磨，差点就要成立一个心理辅导互助小组，就叫‘害怕麻烦别人的人’。后来我才意识到，所有人都会害怕给他人添麻烦，只不过没人会表现出来。”

总之，尽管这本书话题很沉重，但可读性很强，并且颇具教育意义，适合阅读的人群很广。（财富中文网）

本文曾发表于2017年4月1日期《财富》杂志，原标题为《今春哪些书值得一读》。

译者：Pessy

审稿：夏林

Co-written with Wharton professor Adam Grant, Option B is part Sandberg's memoir of the days and weeks following the death of her husband Dave Goldberg, and part research-based exploration of overcoming adversity.

It's not exactly a follow-up to Lean In, but the Facebook COO does address her previous work in the new one, acknowledging its limitations and her own relatively good fortune: "When I wrote Lean In, some people argue that I did not spend enough time writing about the difficulties women face when they don't have a partner. They were right."

Sandberg's trademark phrase itself takes on a new meaning in Option B. Sandberg recounts an episode where the rabbi who presided over her husband's funeral tells her to "lean in to the suck"—that is, expect her life to be awful for a little while. Sandberg writes: "Not exactly what I mean when I said 'lean in,' but for me it was good advice."

This time around, it is clear that Sandberg and Grant went to great lengths to be inclusive: Many of the book's anecdotes about overcoming adversity come from minority populations. These stories, while enlightening, at times feel as though they were forced into the narrative. Likewise, the research that's sprinkled in throughout is, while interesting, not nearly as powerful in making Sandberg and Grant's point as the tech executive's own account of overcoming grief.

The most compelling parts of the book are those that feel like they came straight out of Sandberg's journal. In these sections, we see that even the most powerful, confident people struggle with insecurities. She writes:

I hated asking for help, hated needing it, worried incessantly that I was a huge burden to everyone, and yet depended on their constant support. I was suffering from so many insecurities that I almost started a People Afraid of Inconveniencing Others support group, until I realized that all of the members would be afraid of imposing on one another and no one would show up.

All in all, despite its heavy subject matter, the book is a surprisingly readable, thoroughly educational, and widely applicable read.

A version of this article appears in the April 1, 2017 issue of Fortune with the headline "What You Should Read This Spring."