美国“第一千金”出新书 这些爆料不容错过

本周二,伊万卡•特朗普的新书《职业女性：改写成功的法则》（Women Who Work: Rewriting the Rules For Success）正式发布。书中多是职场女性的实际生活，也给读者提了各种建议，比如如何同雇主协商薪水，怎样保持事业与家庭生活的平衡等。在这本父亲当选总统前写的作品之中，“第一千金”的确吐露了一些个人轶事，读者得以一窥她身兼的多个角色，既要拼杀职场、又要当好妻子和母亲。

书中一些故事曾见诸报端，比如她上大学时有一天早上接到《时尚》杂志美国版主编安娜•温图尔的来电，请她去该杂志工作（被她谢绝）。还有些她之前很少提及，比如初为人母时的惴惴不安。林林总总拼凑在一起，为我们更全面地展示了“第一千金”的形象，不只是她在总统套竞选游说活动和采访中表露的一面。

以下是书中披露伊万卡不为公众所知的一面：

她的榜样是母亲伊凡娜。

伊万卡经常宣称与父亲关系亲密，但很少在公开场合谈起母亲伊凡娜，只是偶尔在社交网络上发布孩提时代的照片。

在《职业女性：改写成功的法则》一书中，伊万卡奉母亲为终极榜样，称母亲教导她可以尝试平衡育儿和房地产事业。“这就是我的母亲，她总能在男性主导的行业彰显女性风范。她教会我多维女性的含义，不仅身体力行也为我指明了方向——多维女性就是要掌控生活方方面面，”伊万卡写道，“例如她教我按自己的标准定义成功，设定我优先事项，忠于内心价值。” 伊万卡说，伊凡娜在孩子们心中是自成一派的“型女”，也一致是她坚定的支持者。而且为人母之后，伊万卡对母亲平衡事业与家庭能力的敬佩有增无减，因为她发现实际做起来没有母亲表现出的容易。

她曾为公开当母亲的消息不安。

虽然有一位平衡事业与家庭的好榜样，但在2011年生下女儿阿拉贝拉后，初为人母的伊万卡还是感觉到极其不安。她在书中写道：“部分因为隐私，还有部分原因是我在纠结，男性主导的行业里当个带孩子的女高管会不会有损我在同事和同行心中的权威。”意识到自己变成公众人物以后，伊万卡没在社交媒体上发布女儿的任何照片，直到她满了一周岁以后才公布。原因有狗仔拍到了一张女儿的相片，她不想让狗仔抢先曝光。

现在伊万卡常常通过社交媒体晒出三个孩子和自己的照片，她说主要因为尝试发了些照片之后反响都比较正面。

去年总统大选期间，她进入“生存模式”。

作为父亲竞选活动中最高调、最有人气的代言人，伊万卡走遍全国助选，证明父亲支持特朗普集团的女员工。而正如她在书中指出的，助选活动的地点是配合她选择的，所有活动的前提是要保证能抽出时间陪孩子，而且没有活动时可以在家工作，活动地点离家比较近时还能送孩子上学。

尽管可以部分掌控行程，伊万卡还是进入了她所说的生存模式。“（去年）10月是疯忙的高峰期，还好中间有一些犹太节日，我趁机稍作休息，有好几天时间专门陪伴家人。”她在书中这样写道。

虽然本书是伊万卡在父亲当选以前写的，但还是能在一定程度上了解伊万卡目前在华盛顿特区的生活。后来她成为白宫的无薪雇员，出任总统的顾问。不难想象，白宫的工作生活应该比大选期间更繁重也更杂乱。

她处事极为井井有条，简直有规划强迫症。

伊万卡仔细规划助选行程的方法也体现在生活方方面面，包括腾出时间陪伴孩子。她一边在特朗普旗下公司工作，一边还在主持个人时尚品牌。她的笔记本上一侧记录日常工作，另一侧写着长远目标，提醒自己忙碌时不忘长远规划。她还自创了一套符号系统，用来标示事项清单上每件事的重要性。她的电子日历上也根据主题和业务将各种日程标上不同颜色，每周五回顾一次。

每年元旦，伊万卡会坐下来详细列出新一年的商业目标。她也会安排陪伴孩子成长的计划，制定目标，确定每天陪孩子多长时间，孩子们要参与那些活动（比如她今年的目标是，小儿子每天喝三瓶奶，她要亲手喂两瓶。）她也用同样方式安排与丈夫的约会——白宫高级顾问贾里德•库什纳。

伊万卡在书中解释：“我知道这听起来太程式化，可事先计划好才能在忙得不可开交时也能按计划抽出时间陪伴家人。只要手头没有特别紧迫的问题，我就要专心跟家人在一起。”

丈夫是她冷静的动力。

特朗普的工作范围迅速扩大，从改组美国政府到化解巴以冲突都有涉及，所以如今举国上下越来越关注库什纳。特朗普当选以来，库什纳只接受过一次公开采访，除了简历之类的个人信息，外界对他知之甚少。伊万卡给读者提供了了解库什纳的视角。她称丈夫在危机期间不偏不倚、头脑冷静，充分支持她的事业理想。伊万卡写道：“他非常务实，面对问题总是头脑冷静。在这方面他是我最了不起的老师，是我内心冷静镇定的理智声音，提醒我把精力放在最重要的事上。哪怕发生危机或是局面混乱不堪也要从容应对，这些都是我最容易感情用事的时候。”

伊万卡说，在共和党的全国党代会上台演讲前一晚，是库什纳帮她冷静下来，避免被压力击垮。

伊万卡还指出，夫妇二人在牵线当红娘方面也战绩不俗，已经成功促成了七对。（财富中文网）

译者：Pessy

审稿：夏林

Ivanka Trump's new book, Women Who Work: Rewriting the Rules For Success was released Tuesday. Much of the book is a practicum for females in the workplace, advising readers on everything from salary negotiations to work-life balance. However, the first daughter—who wrote the book before her father was elected—does provide a few personal anecdotes that give the reader a glimpse into her own life as a member of the workforce, a wife, and a mother.

Some of these stories have been recounted before, like the one where Vogue editor-in-chief Anna Wintour called her one morning while she was in college to offer her a job with the magazine (which she declined). But others, like her initial insecurities as a mother, have never really been discussed in depth. Put together, they provide a fuller portrait of the first daughter than the one she has provided on the campaign trail and in interviews.

Here's a look at some of the book's revelations:

She models herself after her mother, Ivana.

Trump has frequently touted her close relationship with her father, but rarely speaks publicly about her mother Ivana, aside from posting childhood photographs on social media.

In Women Who Work, Trump describes her mother as the ultimate role model who taught her that balancing children and a real estate career was something to which she could aspire. "It was my mother, unapologetically feminine in a male industry, who first embodied and defined for me what it meant to be a multidimensional woman—a woman works at all aspects of her life," Trump writes. "By example, she taught me to define success on my own terms, to set my own priorities, and to be true to my values." Ivana, who is known as "Glamma" to her children, is still her biggest supporter, Trump writes. And her own appreciation for her mother's balancing act only increased when she became a mother because she realized it wasn't as easy as Ivana was making it seem.

She was initially insecure about publicizing her role as a mother.

Even though Trump had a role model for balancing work and family, she still felt incredibly insecure when she first became a parent after her daughter Arabella was born in 2011. "Part of it was a preference for privacy, but another part was grappling with whether being a young female executive with a baby would undermine my authority in the eyes of my colleagues and peers in a very male-dominated industry," she writes. Conscious of the fact that she was somewhat of a public figure, she did not post any pictures of her daughter on social media until she turned a year old. And even then, she says, it was only because the paparazzi had snapped a photo and she didn't want them to put one up first.

Trump now frequently posts photographs of herself and her three children on social media, which she says only happened after the positive response she received from her first several posts.

She went into "survival mode" during the 2016 campaign.

As one of her father's most high profile and popular surrogates on the campaign trail, Trump traversed the country attesting to his support for women in the Trump Organization. But, as she notes, these campaign stops were on her terms; she planned the trips to ensure she was still able to spend time with her children, working from home on the days she wasn't on the trail, and dropping her children off at school before events that were relatively close to home.

Even if she did have some control over her schedule, she still went into what she calls survival mode. "In the max peak craziness of October, I was so grateful for the Jewish holidays, which forced me to take a break and allowed me to spend several days focused entirely on my family," she writes.

And although she wrote Women Who Work book before her father won the election, it gives some insight into her current life in Washington D.C., where she ended up assuming an unpaid role in the West Wing as an Assistant to the President. It's hard to imagine life working in the White House is any less grueling or chaotic than campaign stops.

She's incredibly organized and a compulsive planner.

The meticulous method Trump used to plan out her campaign stops apparently extends to every facet of her life, including time with her children. While she was working at the Trump Organization and leading her fashion brand, Trump had a notebook where she put her daily tasks on one side and her longer goals on another, so she was be reminded of the latter while working on the former. She had a system of symbols to indicate the importance of each item on the list. Her digital calendar was color coded by topic and business, and she reviewed it every Friday.

Every New Years Day, Trump sits down and details her business objectives for the coming year. But she also plans methods of connecting with her children, setting goals for how much time she will spend with them per day and what activities they will do. (For example, in 2017, she aimed to feed her youngest son two of his three bottles a day). She also uses this system to plan date nights with her husband, White House senior adviser Jared Kushner.

"I know this sounds incredibly formulaic, but committing to these relationship goals with each person in my family, when there aren't other issues that are immediately pressing, allows me to put a plan in place for those times during the year when it is more chaotic," she explains in her book.

Jared Kushner is her calming force.

National focus on Kushner has grown since President Trump has rapidly increased his portfolio to include everything from revamping the government to solving the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. Kushner has given only one on the record interview since Trump was elected President, and little is known about him aside from standard biographical details. Trump provides insight into Kushner, describing him as even-keeled, coolheaded during a crisis, and supportive of her career ambitions. " He’s incredibly pragmatic, always cool in the face of adversity," Trump writes. "He’s my greatest teacher in this regard, the calm, soothing voice of reason that guides me to focus on what matters most, even in moments of crisis or chaos, when I naturally tend to be a bit more emotional."

It was Kushner, she says, who calmed her down right before her speech at the Republican National Convention, reminding her not to become overwhelmed by the task.

Trump also notes that they have quite a good track record when it comes to matchmaking, successfully pairing seven couples.