当汤姆·汉克斯回顾他的人生和职业生涯时,他认为35岁是人生中最艰难的年龄。
汉克斯参加了《今夜娱乐》(Entertainment Tonight)节目,谈论他的新电影《这里》(Here)。他在电影中饰演了不同年龄的角色。汉克斯提到,“对我们来说,最难的是扮演35岁的时候。”
现年68岁的汉克斯表示,在这个年龄,“新陈代谢停止、重力开始拉扯你、骨头开始磨损”。《财富》杂志采访的专家表示,不只汉克斯发现35岁是一个艰难的人生阶段。
35岁既不是最年轻的,也不是最年长的,这个年龄的人可能会因为财务和家庭责任而陷入人生低谷。
许多35岁的人会觉得他们的梦想与现实发生了冲突。博纳菲德财富(Bone Fide Wealth)的认证理财规划师兼创始人道格拉斯·邦帕斯对《财富》杂志表示,在这个年龄段财务压力加剧,退休可能还遥不可及。
专注于千禧一代理财的邦帕斯表示:“35岁可能是一个独特的挑战,因为它通常是期望与现实发生碰撞的过渡期。”
常见的人生过渡期会增加压力。
Monster的职业专家维姬·萨莱米表示:“在这个年龄段,人们可能开始组建家庭、购买房屋,还会经历……各种‘成人化’的人生大事。保持积极的态度,制定计划,与他人交流、建立人脉等,对于应对这些变化非常重要。”
普遍会出现职业倦怠
许多35岁的上班族通常有足够长的工作经历可能取得一些成就,但与事业巅峰期又有很长的距离,因此他们可能感觉自己陷入了困境。
根据《福布斯》对1,000多名美国上班族的调查,千禧一代对他们的工作最不满意。这并不奇怪,因为许多千禧一代担任中层管理人员,众所周知这个职位会带来巨大的压力。中层管理人员负责向团队传达办公室的规定和其他不断变化的文化规范,因此这个群体近来报告的职业倦怠程度最高。
职场专家兼Workplace Intelligence主理合伙人丹·施瓦贝尔补充道:“在35岁时,许多职业人士发现自己要平衡职业发展与日益增加的工作责任,他们通常面临着获得领导岗位或实现长期职业目标的压力。”
邦帕斯指出,许多人可能来到一个临界点,他们意识到自己想要改弦易辙。
对于这个人生阶段,他说道:“在这个时期,人们可能会感觉职业发展存在压力,或者意识到他们所走的道路可能与他们的长期抱负不一致。”萨莱米支持这一观点,她解释称在这个年龄段,人们通常准备改变职业,这令人兴奋,“但可能会令人望而生畏。”
即便如此,这个年龄段并非全都是厄运和悲观。亚利桑那州斯科茨代尔市康纳斯财富管理公司(Conners Wealth Management)的创始人兼总裁史蒂文·康纳斯指出,35岁的成年人“正处于他们的黄金工作年龄”。他补充说,35岁距离传统退休大约还有30年,他们正处于一个理想的位置,可以增加储蓄,并为他们的工作做出更多贡献。对于这些成家不久、职业发展加速但距离退休还有很长时间的成年人,他建议他们保持乐观,他说:“相反,要感到兴奋。距离40岁生日(或中年危机)还有5年时间。”
没有时间放松
即使35岁的人终于有了喘息的机会,他们可能也无法放松。毕竟,他们正处于一个生活成本高昂的阶段。
而且,这个典型的艰难时期,对千禧一代来说似乎更加艰难。千禧一代通常背负了学生贷款并面临不合时宜的经济衰退,这代年轻人买不起房,并且还要与现金充裕的婴儿潮一代竞争。事实证明,财富积累并不容易,因为70%的Z世代和千禧一代学生借款人对银率网(Bankrate)表示,由于债务,他们推迟了做出重要财务决策的时间。
仅仅负担自己的生活方式就已经很困难,这在某种程度上导致了一些人不生育孩子。而全国性危机的加剧,导致有孩子的家庭要面临高昂的托儿费用。根据美国儿童保育意识组织(Child Care Aware of America)的一份报告,在每个州,托儿费用高于房屋租金,因为两个孩子在中心的托儿费用比平均年租金高出25%到100%以上。
尽管面临各种挑战,千禧一代仍然坚持不懈,并取得了进展。但他们仍然可能感到压力,因为他们要在未来生活、财富积累和家庭规划等方面努力平衡支出。邦帕斯解释说:“在财务上,35岁的人更加重视购房、养育子女或退休储蓄等重大生活开支,随着责任的增加,他们往往会感觉这些开支更加沉重。” 他补充说,人们在这个年龄也会开始出现健康问题。
《释放工作中的快乐》(Unlocking Happiness at Work)一书的作者詹妮弗·莫斯对《财富》表示:“在这个年龄,几乎没有时间照顾自己,你的所有时间都围绕着照顾别人而不是自己。这是一个令人筋疲力尽的时期,许多人会思考人生的意义何在。”她引用的一项研究解释了幸福感就像一个U形曲线,在中年时下降,而且最近对青年的调查显示幸福感大幅下降。
对于汉克斯而言,他认为自己“现在的状态更好”,因为孩子们都长大了,他有更多的时间锻炼和享受美食。西北大学家庭研究所(Family Institute at Northwestern)的心理咨询临床副教授克鲁利斯博士同意这些做法是“在任何年龄段改善身体状况的关键”。
她补充说,尽管这个年龄段可能会有成长的痛苦,但也可以是一个反思的好时机。她补充说:“我认为三十多岁可能是人生中非常激动人心的时期,因为这是一个成熟的个体拥抱自我、走自己的路并学会如何应对逆境的时期。”(财富中文网)
译者:刘进龙
审校:汪皓
当汤姆·汉克斯回顾他的人生和职业生涯时,他认为35岁是人生中最艰难的年龄。
汉克斯参加了《今夜娱乐》(Entertainment Tonight)节目,谈论他的新电影《这里》(Here)。他在电影中饰演了不同年龄的角色。汉克斯提到,“对我们来说,最难的是扮演35岁的时候。”
现年68岁的汉克斯表示,在这个年龄,“新陈代谢停止、重力开始拉扯你、骨头开始磨损”。《财富》杂志采访的专家表示,不只汉克斯发现35岁是一个艰难的人生阶段。
35岁既不是最年轻的,也不是最年长的,这个年龄的人可能会因为财务和家庭责任而陷入人生低谷。
许多35岁的人会觉得他们的梦想与现实发生了冲突。博纳菲德财富(Bone Fide Wealth)的认证理财规划师兼创始人道格拉斯·邦帕斯对《财富》杂志表示,在这个年龄段财务压力加剧,退休可能还遥不可及。
专注于千禧一代理财的邦帕斯表示:“35岁可能是一个独特的挑战,因为它通常是期望与现实发生碰撞的过渡期。”
常见的人生过渡期会增加压力。
Monster的职业专家维姬·萨莱米表示:“在这个年龄段,人们可能开始组建家庭、购买房屋,还会经历……各种‘成人化’的人生大事。”保持积极的态度,制定计划,与他人交流、建立人脉等,对于应对这些变化非常重要。”
普遍会出现职业倦怠
许多35岁的上班族通常有足够长的工作经历可能取得一些成就,但与事业巅峰期又有很长的距离,因此他们可能感觉自己陷入了困境。
根据《福布斯》对1,000多名美国上班族的调查,千禧一代对他们的工作最不满意。这并不奇怪,因为许多千禧一代担任中层管理人员,众所周知这个职位会带来巨大的压力。中层管理人员负责向团队传达办公室的规定和其他不断变化的文化规范,因此这个群体近来报告的职业倦怠程度最高。
职场专家兼Workplace Intelligence主理合伙人丹·施瓦贝尔补充道:“在35岁时,许多职业人士发现自己要平衡职业发展与日益增加的工作责任,他们通常面临着获得领导岗位或实现长期职业目标的压力。”
邦帕斯指出,许多人可能来到一个临界点,他们意识到自己想要改弦易辙。
对于这个人生阶段,他说道:“在这个时期,人们可能会感觉职业发展存在压力,或者意识到他们所走的道路可能与他们的长期抱负不一致。”萨莱米支持这一观点,她解释称在这个年龄段,人们通常准备改变职业,这令人兴奋,“但可能会令人望而生畏。”
即便如此,这个年龄段并非全都是厄运和悲观。亚利桑那州斯科茨代尔市康纳斯财富管理公司(Conners Wealth Management)的创始人兼总裁史蒂文·康纳斯指出,35岁的成年人“正处于他们的黄金工作年龄”。他补充说,35岁距离传统退休大约还有30年,他们正处于一个理想的位置,可以增加储蓄,并为他们的工作做出更多贡献。对于这些成家不久、职业发展加速但距离退休还有很长时间的成年人,他建议他们保持乐观,他说:“相反,要感到兴奋。距离40岁生日(或中年危机)还有5年时间。”
没有时间放松
即使35岁的人终于有了喘息的机会,他们可能也无法放松。毕竟,他们正处于一个生活成本高昂的阶段。
而且,这个典型的艰难时期,对千禧一代来说似乎更加艰难。千禧一代通常背负了学生贷款并面临不合时宜的经济衰退,这代年轻人买不起房,并且还要与现金充裕的婴儿潮一代竞争。事实证明,财富积累并不容易,因为70%的Z世代和千禧一代学生借款人对银率网(Bankrate)表示,由于债务,他们推迟了做出重要财务决策的时间。
仅仅负担自己的生活方式就已经很困难,这在某种程度上导致了一些人不生育孩子。而全国性危机的加剧,导致有孩子的家庭要面临高昂的托儿费用。根据美国儿童保育意识组织(Child Care Aware of America)的一份报告,在每个州,托儿费用高于房屋租金,因为两个孩子在中心的托儿费用比平均年租金高出25%到100%以上。
尽管面临各种挑战,千禧一代仍然坚持不懈,并取得了进展。但他们仍然可能感到压力,因为他们要在未来生活、财富积累和家庭规划等方面努力平衡支出。邦帕斯解释说:“在财务上,35岁的人更加重视购房、养育子女或退休储蓄等重大生活开支,随着责任的增加,他们往往会感觉这些开支更加沉重。” 他补充说,人们在这个年龄也会开始出现健康问题。
《释放工作中的快乐》(Unlocking Happiness at Work)一书的作者詹妮弗·莫斯对《财富》表示:“在这个年龄,几乎没有时间照顾自己,你的所有时间都围绕着照顾别人而不是自己。这是一个令人筋疲力尽的时期,许多人会思考人生的意义何在。”她引用的一项研究解释了幸福感就像一个U形曲线,在中年时下降,而且最近对青年的调查显示幸福感大幅下降。
对于汉克斯而言,他认为自己“现在的状态更好”,因为孩子们都长大了,他有更多的时间锻炼和享受美食。西北大学家庭研究所(Family Institute at Northwestern)的心理咨询临床副教授克鲁利斯博士同意这些做法是“在任何年龄段改善身体状况的关键”。
她补充说,尽管这个年龄段可能会有成长的痛苦,但也可以是一个反思的好时机。她补充说:“我认为三十多岁可能是人生中非常激动人心的时期,因为这是一个成熟的个体拥抱自我、走自己的路并学会如何应对逆境的时期。”(财富中文网)
译者:刘进龙
审校:汪皓
As Tom Hanks reflects on his life and career, 35 stands out as the most difficult age.
Speaking with Entertainment Tonight about his new movie Here where he played a range of ages, Hanks noted that the “the hardest for us was when we were playing 35.”
It’s the “time when your metabolism stops, gravity starts tearing you down, your bones start wearing off,” Hanks, now 68, said. Experts interviewed by Fortune say Hanks isn’t alone in finding the mid-thirties age difficult.
Neither the youngest or oldest kid on the block, people in their mid-thirties might be going through a bit of a slump with financial and family responsibilities setting in.
Many 35 year olds might feel their dreams collide with reality. Financial pressures intensify, and retirement might feel far out of sight Douglas Boneparth, certified financial planner and founder of Bone Fide Wealth, told Fortune.
“Age 35 can be uniquely challenging because it’s often a transitional period where expectations meet reality,” Boneparth, who specializes in millennials finances, said.
Common life transitions can add pressure.
“This is around the time when people may start having families, purchasing a home, and more…full-on ‘adulting’ sets in,” Vicki Salemi, career expert at Monster, said. “It’s important to stay positive, have a plan, talk to people, network, and more, to navigate these changes to move forward.”
Career ruts are common
Often long enough to make some headway, but not far enough to reach a point of full power— many mid-30s workers might feel like they’re in a bit of a rut.
The current cohort, millennials, are the least satisfied in their jobs, according to a Forbes survey of more than 1,000 U.S. workers. It’s no wonder given that many of them are middle-managers, a position known for creating great levels of stress. Said managers have recently reported even higher levels of burnout given their current role to communicate office mandates and other shifting cultural norms to their team.
“At age 35, many professionals find themselves balancing career advancement with increasing responsibilities at work, often facing pressure to achieve leadership roles or pivot toward long-term career goals,” Dan Schawbel, workplace expert and managing partner at Workplace Intelligence, adds.
Many might have a breaking point, where they realize they want to change paths, notes Boneparth.
“It’s a time when people may feel pressure to advance further in their careers or realize that the path they’re on might not align with their long-term aspirations,” he says of the life stage. Salemi backs up this sentiment, explaining that this is often a point where people become ready for a career change, something that is exciting “but could feel daunting.”
Even so, it’s not all doom and gloom. Adults at this age “are in their prime working years,”Steven Conners, founder and president of Conners Wealth Management in Scottsdale, Arizona, notes. About three decades from traditional retirement they’re in an ideal spot to save more and contribute more to their job, he adds. Urging optimism for those with a young family and seeing their career accelerate while facing a long time until retirement he says,”be excited instead. Your 40th birthday (or mid-life crisis) is still five years away.
No time to unwind
Even when 35 year-olds finally catch a break, they might not be able to unwind. They’re in an expensive life-stage, after all.
And this typically difficult period seems to be hitting millennials all the more hard. Often hit with student loans and facing ill-timed recessions, young adults of this generation struggled to afford housing and have found themselves competing with cash-flush baby boomers. Wealth building proves difficult, as 70% of Gen Z and millennial student borrowers report to Bankrate that they’ve put off making important financial decisions due to their debt.
Simply affording their own lifestyle proves trying, which has, in part, contributed to some not having children. Those that do have kids have found themselves hit by high childcare costs as exacerbated by a nation-wide crisis. In every state childcare costs more than rent, as the cost of center-based care for two kids was more than average annual rent payments by 25% to over 100%, according to a report from Child Care Aware of America.
Millennials have persevered, making gains despite it all. But they’re still probably stressed as they’re juggling expenses for the future, wealth building, and family planning. “Financially, it’s the age when major life expenses like homeownership, raising children, or saving for retirement come into sharper focus, often feeling more burdensome as responsibilities pile up,” explains Boneparth, adding that there are health concerns that start to kick in at that period as well.
“At this age, there is little to no time for self-care and your whole world is wrapped up in taking care of everyone but yourself. It’s an exhausting time of life that makes many wonder, what’s the point,” Jennifer Moss, author of Unlocking Happiness at Work, told Fortune, referencing a study that explained happiness is like a U-curve that dips in middle adulthood and recent surveys of youth that show a major decline in well-being.
Hanks, for his own part, believes himself to be “in better shape now,” referencing his kids growing older and his heightened ability to exercise and eat better. Dr. Kerulis, associate clinical professor of counseling at the Family Institute at Northwestern, agrees that said practices are “key to improvements at any age.”
She adds though that the age, while it might have growing pains, can be a good time of reflection. “ I would argue that one’s 30’s can be a very exciting time in life because it is a time to embrace oneself, step into one’s own way of being, and learn how to manage adversity as a mature individual,” she added.