为私事请假时如何把握分寸？

    特瓦罗尼特表示：“我建议先试探一下对方的反应，然后再说明自己的情况。有时候，人们只是想知道，你既解决了私事，也完成了工作。”

    当鲁贝尔现在13岁的儿子还是个婴儿的时候，她当时的雇主瓦莱罗能源公司（Valero）正在经历一场令人疯狂的转型，几乎需要她每周出差。她每次都会带着吸奶器坐飞机，但却从未跟同事提到自己的情况。她回忆称：“那些人从来没有问过我这件事，而我也没有主动提出。这种对话让人感觉不舒服。”

    王表示，他会与那些能够接受这种话题的客户或同事分享个人信息，而对于喜欢公事公办的人，他也用相同的方式应对。他说道：“关键是要知道何时采取坦率的态度。有时候你只需说：‘我要参加一个会议。’”

    在收养5岁大的儿子达米安时，王和他的丈夫必须在接到通知后立刻请假前往法院。对于相交10年或15年的客户，王会告诉他们，他要请两天假，接受社会服务人员的面谈，或者要去法院办理收养手续。对于其他人，他只会告诉他们自己没有空。

    但最重要的是，不能因为个人事务影响完成工作的能力。事实上，提出个人事务最好的方式，或许是首先解释自己负责的所有项目均已步入正轨，而不是一开始便说：“我上午要请假，为即将举办的马拉松进行训练。”

    特瓦罗尼特说道：“工作绩效要放在首位。如果你用结果证明了自己，你便拥有了更大的发言权。只要你能展示出自己的实力，也就可以在私人事务上更加坦率。”（财富中文网）

    译者：刘进龙/汪皓

    “I recommend putting your toe in the water and then putting your foot in the water next,” Twaronite says. “Sometimes people just want to know, ‘Great, I accomplished my personal thing and I also got the job done.’ ”

    When Lubel’s now-13 year old son was an infant, her then-employer Valero was going through a crazy transition that required her to travel almost weekly. She brought her breast pump on the airplane every time, but never broached the subject with her colleagues. “The guys never asked me about it and I never brought it up,” she recalls. “It’s an uncomfortable conversation.”

    Wong says that he shares personal information with clients or colleagues he knows are receptive but keeps to business with those who prefer that style. “It’s knowing when you need to be transparent,” he says. “Sometimes you can just say, ‘I have a meeting.’ ”

    When he and his husband adopted their five-year old son, Damien, they had to appear in court and take time away from work at short notice. With clients Wong has known for 10 or 15 years, he could say he was taking two days off to be interviewed by social services or spending the day in court for adoption proceedings. With others, he simply said he wasn’t available.

    Above all, don’t let personal obligations affect your ability to do your work. Indeed, that may be the best way to broach a commitment. Instead of saying, “I need the morning off to train for an upcoming marathon,” begin with explaining that all your projects are on track.

    “Performance comes first,” Twaronite says. “If you’ve proven yourself in results, you will have a bigger voice. You’ll have the ability to flex your muscles and be more transparent.”