自我意识：提高领导情商的关键

    3. 为何自我意识是领导者的“万能之钥”

    我们在本文开篇就说过，自我意识是有效领导的最重要品质。很简单，这是因为领导者带领的是人！要领导他人，必须先从领导自己开始，这是一条自我发现和自我理解的旅程。如果你愿意进入这一旅程，并且愿意终身践行，将会发生什么：

    • 你将对他人，包括陌生人，抱有很深的同理心和同情心。

    • 你将能让自己摒弃陈旧的观念和信仰，而且很容易帮助他人这样做。

    • 你将释放自己的潜力，你的满腔热忱、灵感与欢乐，会让你成为一名散发着魅力的领导者，人们自然而然会追随你。

    • 在终身学习的旅途上，你不会再将他人视为“物体”或“工具”来对待，而会逐渐意识到他们和你一样，都是有灵魂的人，也有着常人所有的优点和不足。

    • 你会发现，他人的优点和不足将会成为自身的一面镜子：当你被他人的某个优点吸引时，这说明你自身也具有同样的优点；当你只注意到他人身上的不足时，也意味着你有同样的缺点。

    • 你将开始以全新的方式与他人相处，更多地看到他人的优点而非缺点。

    • 随着时间的推移，你将开发出真正的智慧和洞察力，懂得与人分享，而不是封闭自己。

    • 你会吸引其他具有自我意识的人，还会发现自己的领导能力将进入螺旋式的上升周期。

    现在，看看上面的清单……有多少伟大的领导者缺少这样认识自我、感受他人的经历呢？我所指的不是那些用权力得到一切的“统治者”。这些不是真正的领导者。我所说的是那些具有影响力，深受追随者信赖和欣赏的领导者。

    我能承诺的是，如果你走上自我意识之路，你的人生将会发生很多积极的变化。一个有自我意识的领导者才能真正领导他人。现在我要用几句名言激发你的思考：

    “我们并非试图拥有灵魂的人类。相反，我们是具有灵性而试图成长为人的存在。”——德日进神父

    “知己知彼，百战不殆”——孙子

    “种一棵树最好的时间是20年前，再就是当下”——古谚语

    （财富中文网）

    3. Why is Self-Awareness the “Master Key” for Leaders?

    We said from the beginning that Self-Awareness is the most essential quality for effective leadership. This is simply because leaders lead…people! And to lead others, one must begin by leading oneself, on a journey of self-discovery and self-understanding. If you are willing to take this journey and make it a life-long practice, here is what will happen:

    • You will develop deep empathy and compassion for other human beings, including total strangers.

    • You will empower yourself, discarding old ideas and beliefs that no longer serve you and it will be easy for you to help others do the same.

    • You will liberate your own potential, your deep passion, your inspiration and joy and you will become a magnetic leader that people will naturally want to follow.

    • You will stop looking at people as ‘objects’ or ‘things’ to use and start seeing them as spiritual beings, just like yourself, with all the usual strengths and weaknesses, on a life-long journey of learning.

    • You will discover that others, with their strengths and weaknesses act as mirrors for ourselves: when you are attracted to a trait you see in others it means you have that in yourself; when you find yourself focused on some other person’s faults…it means you have that in yourself.

    • You will start experiencing others differently, focusing on their good points instead of their mistakes.

    • Over time, you will develop true wisdom and insight and enjoy sharing it, not keeping it locked inside you.

    • You will attract other self-aware people and find yourself on an upward spiral as a leader for others.

    Now, looking at the above list…how many great leaders do you know that lack this way of experiencing themselves and other people? I don’t mean ‘dominators’ that just use power to get their way. Those are not true leaders at all. I’m talking about people who are influential, trusted and appreciated by those that follow them.

    I promise you that if you start on the path of Self-Awareness your life is going to change in many positive ways. A self-aware leader is the only one who can truly lead. And now I want to leave you with a few quotes to stimulate your thinking:

    “We are not human beings trying to become spiritual. We are spiritual beings, learning how to be human.” Teilhard de Chardin

    “Know yourself and know others and in one hundred battles you will be victorious one hundred times.” Sun Dz

    “The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second-best time to plant a tree is right now.” Confucius